Recently I read an article I thought I would pass it along. I believe these types of thoughts and actions are what separate all of us from the masses.
It has been estimated that we each have upwards of 50,000 thoughts per day. How many of yours are negative? Sometimes you have to do a mental spring- cleaning to get rid of those negative thoughts that have become ingrained attitudes. Stopping self- destructive thoughts is like stopping any other bad habit - it takes time and effort.
Among the most effective ways to do this are visualization and affirmations. Affirmations are positive statements about yourself that you repeat over and over in your head until they are programmed into your subconscious.
Visualization is mentally picturing yourself the way you want to be. You’ve heard the old saying “I’ll believe it when I see it”. Well, the reverse is also true: “I’ll see it when I believe it!” Affirmations and visualizations may not feel true at first. They may not even be true! However, they can become so.
Consider what happens when you tell yourself repeatedly, “I’m lousy at remembering names.” There will never be any improvement there. Therefore, if you catch yourself saying it, stop and immediately say to yourself, “I’m good at remembering names.”
Consider the effect of telling yourself, “I’m feeling pretty good today.” Or “I can lose ten pounds.” Or “I am good at getting people to see things my way.” Anything you say to yourself repeatedly will actually influence your reality.
Writing down your affirmations and putting them in some handy place - above your desk, on your bathroom mirror, on the dashboard of your car - will help keep them in mind as well as in sight. Use affirmations and visualizations to project what success will feel like and look like. Imagine, in as much detail as you possibly can, how you would feel as you achieve your promotion, or how the audience hangs on your every word during your speech, or how your confident presence causes heads to turn everywhere you go.
To enhance your charisma and persuasion (while making others feel good about themselves), you can apply the very same techniques by turning them outward. Begin thinking positive affirmations about people you work and live with.
For example, In your next interaction with someone you have noticed a positive change in, Let them know by just giving them a sincere compliment.You will have just sincerely complimented another person and put out a positive thought, and begun a new habit of approaching others using “appreciative inquiry”… finding the good in another person or situation first, instead of finding fault or flaws.
Criticizing is easy and sometimes becomes habit, but re-training your mind to find the positive attributes in yourself and others will win you friends, increase your income, and make you feel better about being a better you.
Hope This Helps, Your friend and Business Partner,
Shane Douglas Senior Vice President ACN
